who do you take to work with you?
We have a massive problem in our work environments. There is much out there to tackle work related stress and anxiety; wellbeing services, strategies of prevention and support, team building, and therapy, which is so greatly needed, but the problem isn’t going away. Work environments are riddled with anxiety and fear, even environments where wellbeing and positive work ethos is valued and practised.
There are still fear based environments, blame cultures, bullying; from the top down and within teams; the people you work with, the adults you work with, grown men and women creating fear, some behaving as if they were still at school but much worse; fighting for power in one way or another, for one reason or another; because of their own fears usually; creating cliques, excluding others, ostracising others, humiliating others, physically abusing others; creating environments of fear.
There is also the fear-based environment which is created through our own inner fears: the fears in our mind that we project onto our work environment. A good day can instantly plummet to a bad day because of a look, a comment, a mistake. All can be going well until work pressures create the slightest stress, then everything changes. Many hard working, conscientious people go to work in fear, even when the environment is a positive one, due to what is going on in their minds.
When I use the word ‘fear’, a person often says, ‘I’m not fearful, work just makes me anxious’, BUT when we unravel the difficulties, what they have been thinking, feeling, and behaving, fear is there somewhere; fear of what others might think of them, fear of not belonging, not being liked, fear that they might get something wrong, might get into serious trouble, might be found out for being a fraud (impostor syndrome), fear that they might be sacked, lose their home, lose their partner, fear of not being able to physically or emotionally work anymore.
And there is another fear; the fear of something happening again; a repetition of something so awful that happened in the past; in a previous workplace, in a previous employment, a previous relationship, at school, in their family. Such fears make a workplace feel dangerous.
And there is the disabling fear in a silent population. The many people who fear being seen. The people who stay silent in the background. Hard-working, conscientious, people who stay in mundane, unfulfilling jobs or roles. People who are intelligent, have amazing ideas, have so much potential and much to give to the world, but don’t, because of what they believe about themselves being confirmed. Who fear being shamed, humiliated, judged. These people aren’t always obvious. They work incredibly hard to stay safe, keep their heads down, not come to notice, but they are very unhappy.
I could go on.
In all work environments there are psychological dynamics which get played out. Psychological dynamics which cause work related stress and anxiety, affecting how people think, feel and behave, how they communicate with their peers, and how they communicate and react to those in authority; their line managers. They are destructive, unhelpful and can create problems for the person, for teams, for management, and for a company.
Often behind the Psychological Dynamics in the workplace and behind work-related stress and anxiety is our history, our past. So, a question to ask yourself is, WHO DO YOU TAKE TO WORK WITH YOU? This might sound like a strange question, but it is a serious one, which will be answered in this training.